What about me?

Been away. "Planning" to get back here more often, and then... the bast laid plans <smile>.

Doing lots (by which I mean LOTS) of work with Communication, Speaking & Listening. Working on a book & a blog both (You Don't LISTEN & You TALK Too Much!) and half-way through The Communication Workshop (which started with the first Session Saturday, July 17th). All to say my entries here will "probably" be skewed towards Communication for a while. Hope that serves you.

"Do away with the narcissistic thinking
to make all conversations about you."

— Dr. Michael Mirdad,
You're Not Going Crazy... You're Just Waking Up!

Got to issue a warning with this one. IF you're also up for paying attention to how often & with whom this "self referential" gravity occurs in conversations BY other people... you'll be in for a good dose of frustration, possibly even shock & anger, too.

I'm amazed by it.

The end result— when you're on the receiving end— is you are NOT heard and you feel that, physically as well as emotionally.

You can't do a whole lot about being the object of the other person's self-referential "dump," save if you're bold &/or diplomatic enough to calmly point out to them what's happening and how it lands on you.

Tough stuff at times, because for the self-referential, that's a direct hit on his or her self-esteem. Which is in need of building up (which is why their so self-directed in the first place) and your remark, no matter how lovingly offered, is received as a tearing down by a self in need of more, more, more positive reinforcement.

So, two things: Hold your nose & jump (IF the person is important enough to you... & do the work on yourself. May not give you the right to tell all the others what you "see" them doing, but then... maybe it does <smile>.

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