You Don't Listen & You Talk Too Much!

Hope you're ready for a little in-your-face action <smile> Here:

You Don't Listen and

You Talk To Much

(surprise)

You're not paying attention (really) to what the other person is saying… You're impatiently waiting for your turn to speak… You're bored, not interested, can't wait to change the subject… You're day dreaming— dog's barking front porch light is on, but nobody's home… You're interpreting what's being said through your own filters… You've got your agenda (and you're stickin' to it)… You're plotting what you'll say next— which way you're going to steer the conversation… You're agreeing, disagreeing, making things said and the other person right or wrong, arguing, comparing… All kinds of mental-judging of what's being said and of the other person him or herself.

YOU're NOT Listening!

and

YOU Talk Too Much!

(surprised?)
I did say this would be a little in-your-face

Talk, talk, talk. Quack, quack, quack. "Enough about you, let me tell you about me… You think that's something, well when I was…" One- upsmanship, my dog's (my idea's) better than your dog. I, me, mine… Sooooo self-referential, self-centered & self-absorbed… But hey, you've got important things to say, right? (Surely more important than what they are saying.) And here's a BIGie: You've got to be right, so you make the other person wrong.

Or, you're (always) selling something: Beliefs, ideas, plans, products, your deal… Where you want them to go, what you want them to do, who you want them to be… So you shift into marketing mode… Make 'em an offer they can't refuse, but so many do, refuse. Why? Because…

YOU Talk Too Much!

And it's all about you…

Tell, Tell, Tell…

It's one BIG reason people don't listen to you.
What you need to be doing— 90% of all the time— is…

Asking

Ask. Ask. Ask. Ask. Ask.

The questions are the Answer. Find out WHO and HOW they are? What's up with them… What are their Values (the things that are most important to them). What are their needs & wants, desires & dreams. Make a real Connection (not some drive-by posting on Facebook). Get into "Shipping & Receiving"— Relationshipping, Friendshipping, Partnershipping and Leadershipping. THEN you'll Receive the rich rewards you're after (and get this please: Those rewards do come AFTER).

"What we've got here," Strother Martin, who played the prison warden
in the Paul Newman classic film "Cool Hand Luke" said,
"…is failure to communicate."

Communication

It's THE #1 problem (and #1 Key to Success) in any & every relationship, friendship and partnership. It's the fast track to the top in all of the "People Professions"— sales, real estate, insurance, health care, healing, networking… For teachers, coaches, counselors, ministers, managers, builders & leaders of groups, teams and organizations… and especially Direct Sales MLM Network Marketers.

Improve your Communication skills fast
in ways that last.

Enroll in The Communication Workshop.

We will… We will… ZAP You! Promise. <smile>

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For two hours each day (11:00 am to 1:00 pm EDT) on two consecutive Saturdays this July (the 17th & 24th) you'll participate in a total immersion, interactive intensive that promises to increase your Speaking & Listening skills by at least 20%— you WILL experience the positive changes in your life & work immediately.

IMPORTANT: Both Sessions will be recorded & archived in Mp3 format for later listening. Professional transcripts will be provided for each Session (including the surprise "follow up" session— which I guess isn't a surprise anymore <smile>). Plus you will be getting an extensive library of study & resource material including eBooks, articles & audios. All of this is yours to keep & most of it you are free to share.

The cost of The Communication Workshop is $197.

Member's of TheGreatestNetworker.org can save $100 off the regular price and enroll in The Communication Workshop for $97 instead of the regular $197. And if by chance you are not yet a Member… A Monthly Charter Membership will cost you just $10— and investing $10 to save $90 is a smart move. You can do that now, here: Join.

You know if improving your Communication skills is important to you.

If you want more info… right here at TheGreatestNetworker.org are a number of valuable, educational & fun videos you can watch. They're on the Home page weblog. Even if you don't/can't do The Workshop, watch them please. Good & useful stuff. This one below is about "The #1 Challenge of All…"

 

Enroll and get started right away by clicking the "Add To Cart" button for PayPal right below.

Mark your calender for the two Saturdays, July 17 & 24, and keep a look out in your eMail and right here on the TGN.org site for resources, ideas and exercises I'll be sharing from the Communication Workshop and all the videos we have coming (soon) for you.

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Thanks.
I appreciate you!

 

PS. If you ARE interested in enrolling in The Communication Workshop, you can, today, right on that front page. Scroll down. There's a bunch.

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7 Days to Change Your Mind - 28 Days to Change Your Life.

(Been gone too long with my posts, I know. Apologies AND not sure how often I'll be back, so...)

7 Days to Change Your Mind - 28 Days to Change Your Life.

Quite the offer/come on. Take me up on it. It's fun & easy & really will do what it promises. Here goes.

The practice & process is one I call "Listing." Simply, you're going to make a list, once a day, every day, first for seven days. When you get through that and learn that it's easy to do and valuable, too, you'll push on for 21 more days 28 total. One phase of the moon. A natural cycle of life on Earth. And just the right amount of time/days to form a habit.

The purpose of this exercise is to accomplish a number of important bits:

A. To have you focus on what's working in your life (and work).
B. Thereby building your pure positive creative energy for more & better.
C. Creating the habit of "seeing" & acknowledging your successes.
D. Identifying your Values and keeping them in front of you.

and...

E. All of the above, which will result in a more satisfying, fulfilling & fun existence.

Neat huh? Here's the deal & daily drill.

Sit down (okay, stand if you want to) with a sheet of paper and something to write with. Yes, unless you are disabled and can't, paper and pen/pencil. Gotta' do this by hand (brings all the bodies together: physical, mental, emotional & spiritual).

On the top of the page write "What's right... What's working..." Either or both.

Then proceed to list at least (you can do more) 10 things in your life that are "right" that are "working".

When you list is complete. Review it starting with entry #1 and write down the VALUE or VALUES each thing you wrote down provides for you. let me give you some of my own as examples:

What's right...

1. Took the girls fishing.
2. Called PayPal to sort out the web payment process.
3. Posted in my TGN.org weblog.
4. Sent out eMails to all the Members about getting on the list.
5. Made long overdue communication with Mary about her book....

Okay, now in the review I identify what Values each of those entries had me experience & express, like so.

1. Fatherhood, fun, joy, giving.
2. Courage, resourcefulness, accomplishment, follow-through.
3. Accomplishment, productivity, creativity, contribution.
4. Accomplishment, productivity, TCB (Takin' Care of Business), organization.
5. Courage, accomplishment, completion, integrity.

Now, the first bit helps me "see" how much I do that is really right, that's working— and THAT's a very good thing. I'm not all that good at acknowledging myself, so it's a good habit for me to be working on. Builds energy for more & better, as well. (More, much, to say about that, and... that's all for now.)

The Values bit is the kicker. My experience as teacher & coach is most people are NOT hip to the importance of living & working their Values in everyday life & work. Your Values are the heart of the matter. They are a source of pure positive energy... Juice & Jazz. They fuel your Vision and new possibilities & ideas.

When you are living & working in ways that have you experience & express your Values, life is good, work is better and you are more fulfilled & satisfied. All of which equals feeling RRReally good! (About your self and life.) So, identifying your Values and keeping them "in your face," so to speak, works & serves you being more of your authentic self.

You'll see when you do this for a few days.

Probably more to say. Not sure what. So... Questions? Comments? All welcome.

Try it and let me know how it goes. I'm off to do mine now. (And yes, this post will by my first "What's right..." entry < smile >)

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Thanks.
I appreciate you!

 

 

 

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