At my meeting today (and in the church parking lot after the one last night) the topic was RESENTMENT. (Funny how things show up like that, RE-ocurring <smile>)
Knowing Bill W. as a Master Wordsmith (and I gladly & with Awe sit as his feet), I know his choice of words was very well considered. Hence this from my dicting around:
verb [ trans. ] feel bitterness or indignation at (a circumstance, action, or person) : She resented the fact that I had children.
ORIGIN late 16th cent.: from obsolete French resentir, from re- (expressing intensive force) + sentir ‘feel’ (from Latin sentire). The early sense was [experience (an emotion or sensation),] later [feel deeply,] giving rise to [feel aggrieved by.]
Drilling down a tad— RE: is "again." NOT the first time, but the second, 3rd, 10th, 1187th time...
Sentir is Latin which means feel, feeling.
So, resentment is to RE FEEL. (Hangs around with REact, REspond, REvisit, RE... anything). As they say in Ol' Mexico otra ves. refried beans. Over agin.
So it's not my initial— in the moment— feeling about the person, place or thing that...
"...is the 'number one' offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick."
It the second time (and all the other times) around on the guitar that that bit of anger, disappointment, sadness becomes a resentment problem.
Somebody does, says something... I get angry about that. Fine. That's what's so. That's what happened. As (my 10 year old says) "No biggie." BUT I don't let it go at that. I bring it back around again... and each and every time I do, it's a...
And it's out to destroy me.
Damn things (angers, etc.) outta' come with a sign 'round their necks...
ONLY ONE PER CUSTOMER!
Imagine the destructive power when I resent a person or an event or an institution or (whatever)... for the hundreth or thousandth time?
Makes it easy. ANY time ANY upset shows up for the second or more time, I gotta' NAIL IT! Right then and right there. It's NOT real. I made it up. Easy thing to do is give it to GOD to cleanse, erase & heal. Easy thing to do times 10, Pray for the person, place or thing. Just ask GOD to bless him, her, it, them... then let it go and move on down the sidewalk.
Only One Per Customer. Wonder if that works with "good things," too. I'll bet it does. But that's post-graduate work. I'll stay in elementary school for now <smile>.
Please, let me know what you think & feel in the Comments box...
I appreciate you!