One of my greatest admires (and appreciations) for the 12-Step program I'm in is their Tradition 3.
"The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking."
Only... requirement.. membership... ____________... stop... drinking. I know what all those words mean. The focus of the statement is on DESIRE. NOT a sincere desire... NOT passionate desire... NOT (sorry Napoleon) a burning desire. Simple a desire to stop drinking.
If you/we/me have that, that's all that's required. The program will do the rest. (Really.)
Of course, "Keep coming back. It works if you work it." But to paraphrase Woody Allen, "80% of success is just showing up." Showing up to the BIG Book (study)... with your sponsor... to meetings... to serve... to spread the word(s).
Two funny things: As simple as THAT is... it's NOT easy. AND...
WHO's creating your sobriety...? Your spiritual awakening...? Your getting your life (and maybe your wife & family <smile>) back/together...? Helping your life to (at long last, albeit all too slowly <smile>) become "manageable?"
Only GOD can make a tree, Alfred Joyce Kilmer famously said.
And that ain't all GOD is the only one who can make...
Please, let me know what you think & feel in the Comments box...
I appreciate you!